How to date properly, so as not to get upset?

When we go on a date, then we automatically carry with us our hope to meet our chosen one, your soul mate, which will harmoniously complement us, will understand us without words and with which we will live happily ever after. Meeting a potential candidate for this role, we understand, that he will in no way be able to fulfill all the hopes and aspirations placed on him. And our hope, or rather expectations, raised to heaven, fall from there, slapping us at the same time. We get upset, disappointed, we even vow not to go on dates anymore. But our desire doesn't go away from it, after a while it makes itself felt again, gives rise to hope, aspiration and expectations, and we go there again, where else were not going to go. Ultimately we, bumping into the same thorns many times, stop trying. But at the same time, our sense of self is poor., giving rise to a general taste of disappointment, disbelief, irritations, closeness. When we go to a meeting with pre-prepared expectations and requirements, we limit the field of possibilities. Now we will be and live in secrecy, on the one hand - cherishing hopes for the fulfillment of their desires, and on the other - not letting anyone close because of the pain experienced. At the same time, putting forward more and more requirements for that, how everything should be and happen, what qualities a potential chosen one should have, and thus more and more driving yourself into a corner. But our pain is a figment of our imagination. When we go to a meeting with pre-arranged expectations, requirements, views, how everything should be, we thereby limit the field of possibilities. We ourselves are cutting our chances of finding the right person.. Another person does not have to meet our requirements, perceptions and expectations. He can give something, что он может Ричард Вайзман, author 8 books, including books with an entertaining title "How to Catch Your Luck", during 10 years followed the course of life 400 subjects of different ages and professions and noticed, what people have, who consider themselves "losers", too narrow focus. Weisman noted, that losers are obsessed with safety and are very anxious: instead of, to frolic, like a dolphin, in a sea of ​​random selection, they fixate on being in control, looking for something specific. As a result, they miss out on many opportunities., sailing by peacefully. They go to the party in search of the perfect partner and miss the opportunity to find good friends.; in the newspapers they are looking for one specific job and do not notice heaps of other types of work; etc. Lucky people are more relaxed and open-minded., and in the end they get that, what were looking for. So treat dating like a game., do not focus solely on finding your soul mate. Communication and meetings can do much more: new opportunities, new friends, new knowledge, new understanding, new experience. And experience, by the way, doesn't have to be positive. Experience breeds wisdom, inner maturity, understanding the essence of things, but he does not have to correspond to our speculative ideas. If it matches our ideas, it is not an experience.. Treat dating like a game, не сосредотачивайтесь исключительно только на поиске своей половинки Наблюдайте свои ожидания и то, how they give rise to the bitterness of disappointment. Disappointments are born from charms. Another person does not have to meet our requirements, perceptions and expectations. He can give something, what can he. And we can only give that, what can. No one is able to satisfy us at all 100%, and we are not able to make the other person happy at all 100%. This is only possible in moments. We are all raised differently, due to, we do not match more often, how do we match. Closeness is born from openness, not closeness. Going to a meeting with pre-prepared samples, living with pre-prepared samples, how everything should be, we thereby miss life and all the wonderful, what can happen in her.